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Myriam's avatar

Completely agree about divorce being terribly hard on the children. I was not in an abusive marriage, just a neglectful one and my husband was not emotionally available. Even after 16 years and 4 children, the relationship never evolved or deepened. After seeing the effects on my 4 children, I would not have divorced. Thank you for writing this!

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

Did you just call President Trump the antiChrist on your TG group?

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

Ok great! We got the Walnuts! Delicious! I open all your stuff. Thanks R!

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Wanda Sobran's avatar

Thank you Robyn ! All the best to you !

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Nona 104's avatar

I have to say that was one of the most objective article I’ve read on divorce. You talk about the pros and cons of divorce and and don’t lean more toward one or the other. I’ll be celebrating 41 years of marriage to the same man and we have 8 children and 16 grandchildren ( so far) we’ve had our ups and downs and I find that acknowledging that you made a mistake and practicing humility is important for a long and successful marriage. We all have faults. Thank you for this great and personal article.

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

Oh and we gave my husband's boss some of our walnuts and they loved them and wanted to order but we noticed the Nut Buy is over. Will there be another one anytime soon? TYIA!

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Robyn Openshaw's avatar

In the fall! Barring some shipping catastrophe. We do a group buy every fall for 20 years now. That one you just got in on was just some extra almonds and pecans my brave rancher friend rounded up and was willing to not pasteurize and gas. And sell to all of us for a great price. Humble, sweet man way out in rural CA who came to one of my lectures many years ago. Just remember to open one of my emails every couple weeks or you’ll fall off my mailing list and you won’t know.

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Theresa Healy's avatar

Agree. Divorce effected my kids beyond any horror I could have imagined. 😔. At this point in my healing, I know longer ask if it was wrong decision. For me, the abuse came first and I couldn't function as a healthy mom behind it anymore. I didn't feel strong enough. Thank fully one of the Two has also moved beyond his anger at me. I still hold out hope for the other. I pray daily that he finds the healing he needs also. ❤️❤️.

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KB's avatar

life is learning to become teachable again. When we're way too the narcissistic side of ourselves(away from God) we're closed minded, know-it-alls, unable to apologize, unable to say 'i'm sorry', unable to admit our failures to our kids...ourselves (b/c we want to appear perfect...like that keeps us in control or friends to them..phony). Emulate God....being grateful, humble, thankful, seeing the good in others and in the world...waking up with a kind spirit, showing grace to yourself and others, being kind and encouraging, believing in the best and hoping in Gods truths. Emulate satan...be kurt and in a hurry, looking for everything wrong, pointing out others faults and defects (even when you think you are just joking...YOUR'RE NOT YOU'RE BEING AN ASSHOLE AND DISCOURAGING others), never joke about others. Be negative and easily offended, easily stirred up into hatred and anger and thinking everything is stacked against you and everyone else is getting your 'share', it is limited thinking straight from satan. If you are controlling and coercive and think that you are good at mental prowess in working others, you are a narcissist and will self-destruct, just give it time. 2 choices every day.... speak life or death, you get to choose, be God's example or satans.

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Robyn Openshaw's avatar

You should be blogging! Spot on. All of it. Thank you!

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Nona 104's avatar

You are so right.

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ViaVeritasVita's avatar

Or--get back to me when you've been married 51 years--which, assuming no fatal accidents, will be in 6 weeks. Patience and prayer, prayer and patience.

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

Ok good to know. Hard to believe anything now days! Appreciate you getting back Tanya!

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

Robyn were you really blocked from posting on your TG group for 3 days or has your group been highjacked by an imposter? Looking for truth.. 🤔

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Robyn Openshaw's avatar

I have been unable to post on telegram for 3 days. Some of my followers are also unable to comment and very upset about it — it’s not me! I block NO ONE unless they’re abusive to me or others and won’t stop when asked once. So what you see Tanya or John saying there, now admins, is ME asking them to publish it. It’s our workaround for now. Could Telegram also be censoring now??? Run by volunteers.

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Gluten Free Lady's avatar

I'm really surprised that TG would be censoring anyone? Who runs it?

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Robyn Openshaw's avatar

Hi Sue, This is Tanya, Robyn's staff member. Robyn is in control of her Telegram Channel. We don't know why she cannot post, we're trying to figure it out.

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Wanda Sobran's avatar

Hello Robyn , what is the title of the book on alcohol that you gave to all of your children to read ? Thx kindly ! You are a great Force of The Light out there !

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Robyn Openshaw's avatar

this naked mind

By Annie Grace

Also they (we!) all watched the 2.5 hour Dr Andrew Huberman YouTube video on alcohol and it’s epic too.

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