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ViaVeritasVita's avatar

Thank you so much Robyn, for saying that you 'would have just stayed'. I have a friend who admitted once that her early divorce ---could have been avoided had she/they just tried harder to stay together. And just last night I met a woman who--with our knowing each other just 15 minutes(?) told me that her first marriage had failed, that 'we should never have married'. Then I look back at my own words, 'marriage had failed.' It surely is not the marriage that fails, but the people involved who fail at keeping the marriage. I approach 51 years of marriage--5 weeks away. There have been times when I was deeply, even blackly, unhappy--but I never wanted not to be married to him. Furthermore, an advantage of a religious wedding ceremony before their family and friends, is that the couple make promises before God, that family, those friends, and so, to God, that family, those friends.

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No one person can possibly meet all the needs of another. As well, each of us changes as time goes by. Marriage sometimes seems to be entered into as a 'commitment to not change', which is obviously loaded with conflict. Perhaps it can be said that more and more maturity allows for more and more flexibility in what the relationship can be, and what it should be?

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